Emotional instability might indicate a deeper issue within an individual. It could signify a personality disorder, such as borderline personality disorder, or be a symptom of childhood trauma, depression, or an anxiety disorder.
The manifestations of emotional instability are diverse; individuals may exhibit signs of depression and anxiety, along with various behaviors that impact themselves and those around them.
The Counselling Directory notes, "They might experience intense episodes of anger, anxiety, or depression lasting several hours or days. Mood swings can oscillate between periods of dysphoria and euphoria, and from manic self-confidence to severe anxiety and irritability."
Recognizing the signs of emotional instability is crucial if you suspect someone might be suffering. Understanding these signs equips you to comprehend their needs better and offer support without being personally affected by their behaviors, or to assist them in seeking the help they need to manage these behaviors.
HERE ARE 4 BEHAVIORS OF SOMEONE WHO IS EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE:
1. A PROPENSITY FOR IMPULSIVE ACTIONS
An emotionally unstable person may tend to act on impulse, engaging in behaviors that could endanger themselves or others without full consideration. For instance, they might drive recklessly fast or operate a vehicle under the influence of substances.
Their impulsive actions often lean towards risk-taking. They may also indulge in impulsive spending or gambling.
Such individuals often lack self-control and may not fully grasp the concept of delayed gratification. Engaging in these activities might provide temporary relief because they struggle to.
2. THEY EXHIBIT ANGER ISSUES
One of the clearest signs of emotional instability is difficulty with anger management. Individuals who are emotionally unstable often struggle to regulate their expression of anger. They may oscillate between being amiable and extremely irate, lacking the ability to manage their emotions effectively.
Although they might also experience intense episodes of sadness or joy, it is their anger that tends to be more harmful. When angry, they might yell or act out aggressively, not necessarily harming others, but possibly slamming doors or throwing objects.
Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry Dr. Carol W. Berman advises, "The most crucial approach is to avoid internalizing the individual's behavior or taking it too personally. It's not about you. Those with borderline personality disorder may not fully comprehend their actions and their impact on others."
3. ON AGAIN, OFF AGAIN RELATIONSHIPS
Individuals who are emotionally unstable often struggle to maintain stable relationships. They might oscillate between intense affection and severe dislike for the same person. This instability can lead to frequent arguments and breakups with their partners, followed by a desire to reconcile shortly after.
Joe Navarro, M.A., a former FBI Counterintelligence Agent and author, describes such dynamics as "eggshell relationships," where one must constantly be cautious. The emotional instability of one person can create a toxic environment, necessitating careful interaction to avoid outbursts.
Not only romantic relationships are affected; emotionally unstable individuals may also find it challenging to sustain friendships and family ties. The strain on these relationships can lead to estrangement from loved ones.
4. THEY HAVE EXTREME REACTIONS
Individuals with emotional instability may exhibit intense reactions to both actual and perceived situations. If they believe they are being mistreated, they might react strongly without fully understanding the situation. Their skewed perception of the world can prompt reactions to their interpretation rather than the actual circumstances.
A common trigger for such individuals is the fear of abandonment. The belief that they are being left by family or friends, regardless of the reality, can lead to severe negative responses.
In conclusion, those who struggle with emotional instability often have a history of trauma and may lack the necessary skills to manage their emotions effectively.
A robust support network, therapy, and sometimes medication can be beneficial. While they may not intend to impact others negatively, it can occur. Recognizing these signs in someone close can be the first step in seeking the appropriate assistance for them.
